{"id":96397,"date":"2025-09-30T03:42:00","date_gmt":"2025-09-30T03:42:00","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/sotnews.agency\/?p=96397"},"modified":"2025-09-30T03:42:00","modified_gmt":"2025-09-30T03:42:00","slug":"it-wont-fix-itself-zanetor-on-why-marriage-demands-constant-work","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/sotnews.agency\/?p=96397","title":{"rendered":"\u2018It won\u2019t fix itself\u2019 \u2013 Zanetor on why marriage demands constant work"},"content":{"rendered":"
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The Korle Klottey MP, Dr Zanetor Agyeman-Rawlings, has urged couples to be realistic about marriage, warning that it does not magically solve problems but requires constant effort. <\/p>\n

Speaking on the latest edition of JoyNews\u2019 podcast Talk No Dey Cook Rice<\/em>, she stressed that many people focus on appearances and societal approval rather than the real journey of building a life together.<\/p>\n

\u201cI get the impression that sometimes when people are thinking about marriage, it\u2019s the preparation towards it more than the actual journey of being married that people seem to focus on. <\/p>\n

\u201cSo there\u2019s the what do they call the \u2018Save the Date\u2019 pre-wedding pictures thing,\u201d she observed.<\/p>\n

According to her, the energy people put into external displays often overshadows the real work of managing relationships at home. <\/p>\n

\u201cSo you have all this investment into the external appearance of things, for what the people will say, and pleasing the family and society and everything, forgetting or maybe not recognising the fact that even when you grew up in the same house with siblings who are both from the same parents, you can still have issues in terms of how you manage your communication,\u201d she said.<\/p>\n

Dr Agyeman-Rawlings explained that living under the same roof with a partner requires adjustment and honesty. <\/p>\n

\u201cYou do things differently. How do you manage that when you\u2019ve decided that you\u2019re going to share a roof with a person, you\u2019re going to start a family with a person, and it seems people automatically think that when you get married, everything is automatically okay, it\u2019s a lovely fairy tale, but I don\u2019t think it always happens like that,\u201d she noted.<\/p>\n

She urged honesty at the start of marriage so that couples are not taken by surprise when hidden traits surface. <\/p>\n

\u201cIt\u2019s good to put your best foot forward, but it\u2019s also good for you to be a bit honest about who you are, so that the person isn\u2019t surprised when, in three months, they are wondering, Where did this character trait come from? <\/p>\n

\u201cAnd that\u2019s not to say don\u2019t improve upon yourself, but like any other, I think marriage is given the label as it is, as a sacred institution that is meant to be the basis on which a family is started.\u201d<\/p>\n

Comparing marriage to other forms of partnership, she emphasised that it demands effort. <\/p>\n

\u201cIf you think about it as any kind of relationship, a business partnership, a friendship, a contract. Altogether. You can\u2019t just leave it and expect that it will fix itself. It\u2019s constant work, because there may be a way you say things that the person doesn\u2019t understand, and when you say it, the person doesn\u2019t hear what you\u2019re saying or what you think you\u2019re saying. <\/p>\n

\u201cSo you must even learn how to speak each other\u2019s language. I don\u2019t mean your dialect. I\u2019m speaking in terms of how I can say something to you for you to understand it\u2019s exactly as I am saying it and vice versa,\u201d she explained.<\/p>\n

On household issues, she pointed out that clarity of roles and shared values were key. <\/p>\n

\u201cIf it comes to the issue of how the money issue in the house is handled, who provides the money for what, who does which chores, and so on. <\/p>\n

\u201cThere has to be some kind of a platform of common values to start with, so that at least there\u2019s something to go back to, especially when the going gets tough.\u201d<\/p>\n

But she also admitted that even with good intentions, some marriages still fail. <\/p>\n

\u201cEven with the best of intentions, a marriage can just not work. It\u2019s a risk. It\u2019s you hoping for the best, but you just never know,\u201d she said.<\/p>\n<\/div>\n

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