{"id":113141,"date":"2026-01-29T11:41:55","date_gmt":"2026-01-29T11:41:55","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/sotnews.agency\/?p=113141"},"modified":"2026-01-29T11:41:55","modified_gmt":"2026-01-29T11:41:55","slug":"set-boundaries-during-counselling-to-avoid-misconduct-pastor-dy-donkoh","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/sotnews.agency\/?p=113141","title":{"rendered":"Set boundaries during counselling to avoid misconduct \u2013 Pastor DY Donkoh"},"content":{"rendered":"
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Renowned pastor and counsellor DY Donkoh has advised pastors to set clear boundaries during counselling sessions, especially with people of the opposite sex, to avoid sexual misconduct.<\/p>\n

He shared this view on yesterday\u2019s episode of\u00a0Let\u2019s Talk<\/em>\u00a0on Joy Prime while contributing to a discussion about a young woman who said she had been in a five month sexual relationship with a man of God she initially approached for counselling.<\/p>\n

\u201cif you are a good professional counselor, one of the things you don\u2019t do is to embrace and pamper people when they are emotional, crying or are broken in front of you. Don\u2019t do that. Don\u2019t make them feel safe in your hands. Not in words, but in action, especially if it\u2019s the opposite sex. Sometimes setting boundaries for yourself, does you a lot of good.\u201d he said.<\/p>\n

According to the pastor, although men of God are anointed, they remain human and are therefore susceptible to temptation. He advised that when a pastor feels attracted to someone who comes for counselling, the wisest course of action is to avoid being alone with that person.<\/p>\n

\u201cThe best thing to do if you realize you cannot stand the person, invite someone to sit in a corner during the session. It saves you a lot,\u201d he stated.<\/p>\n

Pastor Donkoh also cautioned against the use of flattering language during counselling sessions, noting that comments such as \u201cyou are so beautiful,\u201d \u201clook at your legs,\u201d or \u201cyour husband doesn\u2019t deserve you\u201d are inappropriate and can blur professional boundaries.<\/p>\n

He further warned against making emotional promises like \u201cI\u2019II be there for you 24 hours\u201d or \u201ccall me anytime,\u201d explaining that such statements can create a false sense of security and emotional dependence, which often leads to inappropriate relationships.<\/p>\n

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